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Great Expectations, The Relationship Files

prescription prevacid We all have an ideal when it comes to relationships. He/she should be tall or short, thick or thin, amusing or serious. Some components of our ideals remain flexible and some are as unyielding as a brick wall. I’ve always maintained low expectations are the keys to happiness. How low is low enough and when are we fooling ourselves thinking we expect nothing at all?

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аddress http://mockbustermadhouse.com/18553-levaquin-cost.html I like to think of myself as a girl with no expectations. The fact is I have very real expectations. I justify my ignorance of my expectations by convincing myself they are not expectations at all, but rules I use to avoid what I like to call ‘the great fail’. Those times when I’m left feeling devastated and heartbroken, hide in my shell and renounce the idea of ever dating again. The heroine in the film never lifted a finger; she didn’t change or make some grand gesture. She sat on her ass moping and stuffing her face with ice cream and chocolate and the man she felt she would love one day came to his senses. So when we want someone in our lives and they do something we perceive has screwed it up, we can just lie about and wait for them to wise up, right? Bullshit.

combivent respimat price Relationships take work from both sides; they are full of disappointment and heartache. The reason? Expectations. It’s impossible not to have them and whether they are reasonable or not, they will never all be met.

buy vermox I have done no market research on the expectations of others beyond the occasional observations of those around me in similar situations. So what follows is based on my own introspection, a laundry list of my own expectations, both perceived and real.

I like to think of myself as a girl possessing only one real expectation with regards to dating. I expect the man I am dating to set my expectations. How’s that for a circular reference? I want the man to set the tone and pace for the dating ritual, especially in the beginning, because personal experience has taught me men don’t want to be chased. It is their nature to pursue us, from the beginning they have been raised as the hunter/gatherers in the familial hierarchy. Some men may claim they appreciate the advances of a woman they find attractive. It’s my steadfast belief those men just want to get laid.

I wear the pants in my family. I am the man and woman in every aspect of my life from finances to household. I am not a very traditional woman, but in the realm of the personal relationships, I don’t want to have to be the man. I’m already one evolutional step away from having a dick and balls of my very own.

This expectation of mine, the only one I will admit I have, does exist and I perceive it to be a fair one. If he only calls once a week, I am neither surprised nor disappointed if he only calls once a week, right? I like to tell myself this works for me. The sad fact is I still want him to call more often and make more of an effort, but I don’t tell him. This hidden expectation I refuse to confront eventually leads to the disappointment I fool myself I can avoid with my ‘low expectations’. My laundry list of expectations can be summed up in one word. EFFORT. There is no need to make a list. The list changes depending on the man I am dating, but all my expectations take root in effort.

I’m not one of those girls checking off a list of qualities a potential partner must have. The only item I require to consider accepting a first date is an initial attraction to a man who makes an effort to arrange a first date. As I get to know someone, compatibility in other areas determines whether my interest waxes or wanes. But, when the first date goes well, my expectations start and end with…

EFFORT. I expect him to call more often, be more available, and show increasing interest as the weeks turn into months. If I feel his efforts waning, I bolt like a horse pursued by a plastic bag flapping in the wind. I am happy to play the rabbit to his fox in the great partnership chase. The sad fact is, the second I can’t feel his breath on my tail, I go to ground. Chase over.

I don’t want some dryer sheet stuck to my leg, but I want to rest assured from one date to the next his interest is growing. I want to know he will go out of his way, change his schedule now and then and make me feel important. I want effort. Don’t tell me you love me after a few months, just show me you could, one day, far down the road or I’ll stop running.

EFFORT. I know I want it and I can’t deny it. Call more often than I have grown to expect, make a date on an atypical night, take me someplace special; arrange some sweet surprise. Prove you are still interested, you think I am different and worthy of your effort. I am, after all, pretty damn amazing. But remember, the more effort you make, the more I will expect. Oh, I’m sorry; did I imply I have no expectations?

Sex and the City once analogized men and women to a taxi cab’s availability light. Women drive around and always have their light on; we are always ready to meet the right guy. Guys sit around with their light off forever, switch it on when they are ready and the next fair they pick up is the one they will make the effort for. There is nothing special about his choice but her timing. She was there and his light was on.

Could it really be that simple? I certainly hope not. If the fox chasing you is too slow, should you save your energy or go to ground? Could it be some of us just run too fast?

Dear House Cats(specifically the kittens),

I’ve decided there are a few points we need to clarify. I’ve written you an up to date list of house rules. I suggest you heed these warnings, nine lives may seem like enough, but a few of you are running out. Accidents do happen, so I suggest you save a few lives to account for the injuries you sustain during blind stampedes through the house (like the times you forget you’re playing in a bag, wind up stuck in the handle and scare yourself), your miscalculations while attempting to jump on things you shouldn’t, and the likelihood you will knock me down at some point and I’ll accidentally crush you.

1. No part of my person shall be used to propel your forward motion at a high rate of speed. I must survive your childhood if you want regular meals to continue. Get the hell off me. I’m running out of Band-Aids.
2. If it’s not dry, crunchy and served in a small dish, it’s mine. Get the hell off the counter.
3. All the bacon is mine, especially the bacon cooking in the frying pan, whether it’s done or not. See rule #2 and get the hell off the counter.
4. Moths and other flying insects are no danger to the occupants of this house. Breaking glass, however, often leads to stitches. Stop breaking my shit. Get the hell off my furniture.
5. Furniture covers cover the furniture for a reason. Stop uncovering the furniture. See rule #4.
6. The toilet seat is for serious business, not a source of amusement. You do not fit when I sit. Keep your claws in when my pants are down. Get the hell off the toilet.
7. The toilet bowl is not a kitty pool. In the event an untrained house guest leaves the seat up, you should refrain from swimming in there. Dirty cat paw prints on the bathroom sink are unacceptable. Get the hell out of the toilet.
8. The bathtub drain, while understandably unique to other drains in the house, is not a cat toy. Stop stealing it. Get the hell out of the tub.
9. I shower alone, no exceptions. See rule #8.
10. I’ve seen you attempting to ‘flush’ the toilet. Unless you are actually going to use the toilet, leave it alone. Get the hell out of the bathroom.
11. Litter, while amusing to kick out of the pan onto the floor, is meant to cover your shit. We don’t want to smell your ass even if you want to smell ours. Keep it in the pan.
12. Shitting outside the litter pan to justify kicking the litter onto the floor is unacceptable. See rule #11.
13. The screen door design and construct may lend itself to easy climbing. Just because something is easy to climb does not mean you should climb it. Get the hell off the screen door.
14. Sleeping on my face creates the danger of suffocation. While my early demise may seem like a reasonable escape plan, I assure you no one checks on me regularly. There is no guarantee you won’t starve to death before my body is discovered. Yes, you could just eat me, but I assure you I don’t taste like chicken. Corn fed is a term, not a guarantee.
15. Weaving in and out of my legs while I am trying to walk through the house creates the danger of tripping which could result in blunt force trauma to any one of us. See Rule #14.
16. The desk and keyboard are off limits unless you plan to sprout thumbs, restack my papers and learn how to use spell check. Get the hell off my desk. I have to work efficiently or we’re all going to starve.

I’ve covered the lolly column in the basement with sisal rope to meet your climbing needs. I’ve built you a hammock under the desk for your relaxation purposes. This is the full extent to which I am willing to go to rearrange my living areas for your comfort. Further attempts to redesign the house will force me to impose access restrictions.

P.S. I’ve left instructions in my will you should all be put on the street to fend for yourselves if you are in any way involved in my untimely death. Just saying.

Sincerely,
Sweet Ass Management

A Hump Day Poem:

One horse show last year, my regular ride was feeling better than usual.  It’s hard to complain when your horse feels good.  They work hard and should have a chance to play hard now and then.  I have a sense of humor and a very steady, well behaved horse.  He never bucks or plays and he’s as honest at the jumps as I am in my daily life.  I have mad respect for him, so instead of getting angry he felt playful on a show day I wrote him a poem instead.  That’s how we roll here on the acres.

Awesome in our morning school,
complacency made me a fool.
The playful head toss should have warned me,
My ride was considering trickery.
We made it over the first jump,
We landed with a mighty hump,
Down went his head, he kicked up with glee,
Not a bit of concern for me.
Round we went, an attempt to buck,
I sat there laughing, ‘WTF?’.
Up and down, I stayed tight,
I really didn’t want to fight…
The answer clear after my first course,
I must stop schooling on the grocery store horse.